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This letter is written by a middle school student, Ellie, who attends a school that is cultivating growth mindsets through staff development, Brainology lessons, and other site-wide efforts.  The student insightfully shares HER growth mindset journey.

Ellie discusses what it is like to try to change your own mindset, and gives us a view into the mind of a really terrific kid.

Dear Mr. O,EllieLetter

This isn't another concern letter, I just wanted to share with you what has gone on academically in my life lately. In wellness class, science, and many other of my classes all I have heard is growth mindset, growth mindset, and growth mindset. In reality, I haven't really thought, "Wow, I can get through this problem with my growth mindset!" In wellness, I always think that my life doesn't truly depend on a growth mindset to get around. I mean, yeah, every once and a while I get a really bad score, and might need to get my growth mindset helmet on.

On my last Spanish quiz, which I did poorly on, at first I thought to myself in class, oh my goodness gracious my life is over; what am I even going to do! My classmate turned to me and glanced down at my paper and asked, "What did you get?" being in the mood I was now in, I snapped back at her, "I don't want to talk about it!" I know that probably didn't hurt her feelings, but I'm sure she thought I was being mean to her. Later that evening, when I went home and started my homework, I decided to do corrections. After finishing my corrections I realized, "Whoa, I kind of used a growth mindset, huh?" After thinking this, I thought that it might be a good idea to look over Quizlet one last time, even though I wasn't assigned to do so. This was the first time this year I completely used a reference from wellness. Not saying that I don't, just that I did everything in my power to use my bad grade as an advantage. Honestly, I was proud of myself.

A few days after my Spanish quiz incident, I had a very busy night. I was juggling a field hockey game, soccer practice, and other homework to do. This isn't unusual in my life, but I was in a particularly lazy mood. I had twenty math problems to complete and I was just about keeling over because they were about the distributive property. These take me forever to do! So, I left math for last, even though that is probably one of the worst things I could have done. When I started it, and I realized how long it took me to do one problem, I timed myself. I really wanted to know how long this would take me. I ended up estimating around an hour and a half. That's when my already unhappy-self had a mini melt down. I had gotten ten problems finished, and that was it! I stormed out of my room and went to go complain to my parents. After telling them in the most exaggerated manor I could, they told me to try to finish, and that I should write a note to Mr. Helmick. It wasn't a bad idea, so I went along with it and finished five more problems. Now that I was tired of math, and wrote a letter I said "Eh, fifteen out of twenty isn't that bad, is it?"

I ended up turning it in as is with the note as well. Of course now I realize that this was a crazy bad idea. I had a fixed mindset and nothing was going to change it, at the time. I should have tried to finish and written a nicer note, or just talked to my teacher in person. I guess just because I had a growth mindset once, doesn't mean I'll have it forever after. This I need to work on. Thank you for reading this. I thought eighth grade was going to be pretty easy, already going through three years of middle school and all. I thought this was my year to shine and that "A+"s would come naturally. Don't worry though, just because the going can get tough doesn't mean this can't be the year for me to excel!




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