Research has shown that people with 3 times more positive emotions than negative ones are more resilient and have a relatively higher rate of successful reintegration. Emotional resilience equips people with the much-needed psychological strength to cope with stress and hardships, preventing them from falling apart or getting overwhelmed.


Emotionally resilience is a self-care technique that helps you handle life fears by avoiding negative thoughts. It helps you to remain happy even as you learn from past experiences. It helps you rise above challenges, either through meditation or seeking professional help. If you wish to improve your resilience, here is a simple guide to help you accomplish this.

 1.     Practice mindful meditation on a regular basis

Know how, when, why and where to meditate. Be fully present and aware of what is happening around you so as to avoid being overwhelmed. Meditation will precipitate a deep state of peace and relaxation, which is a fundamental stepping stone towards achieving emotional resilience.

2.     Be ready to confront the truth fearlessly

Accepting reality, including that which is beyond your control, is vital when developing emotional resilience. Don’t allow a single horrifying scenario take away your happiness and belief. Even when the situation seems dire, don’t allow fear to rent space in your soul or mind. You can achieve this by accepting that as much as you don’t agree with how a situation pans out, the truth will always reign supreme. Strategize on how to confront reality.

3.     Self-care is indispensable

Self-care entails admitting that you can’t do everything on your own, no matter how strong you feel. It is the courage to seek help when you need it, say from a professional life coach or mentor, whenever you feel overwhelmed. In fact, there are several differences between coaching and mentoring, therefore, it is important to analyze the services provided by both and select the one that suits your needs best. A professional will help you set boundaries on dos and don’ts in your journey to creating emotional resilience.

Self-care requires real commitment and discipline. You must be ready to shake off anything that doesn’t help your emotional strength, be it friends or hobbies. You must learn to be extremely patient with yourself and trust the process. Strive to make yourself comfortable whether at home or at the workplace. In everything you do, put yourself first.

4.     Avoid negative thoughts, people, or emotions

Resilient people are able to handle negative situations realistically without blame-shifting or focusing on what cannot be changed. They focus on how to tackle problems and make helpful changes rather than resigning to fate. They keep away from negative energy and toxic people. Resilience requires a strong and reliable support system – people who challenge you to be a better version of yourself. Be around your sources of inspiration at all times in order to strengthen your resilience.

5.     Exercise

Physiological exercises will help improve your emotional state. Perform simple body exercises whenever you feel emotionally overwhelmed. When you feel emotionally stuck, do some yoga practices, dance, or even run. This will help you divert from negative energy and thoughts, hence suppressing negative emotions.

6.     Learn as you live

You will encounter many setbacks for as long as you are alive. Failure is normality in life, so it is important that you train yourself to survive through setbacks and failures. The key to building emotional resilience in the face of constant setbacks is to learn from every mistake you make.

7.     Have a purpose in life

If you aren’t careful, self-pity and the feeling of unworthiness will battle you to the ground. The good thing is that none of that will happen if you lead a purposeful life. Understand what you live for and, as much as possible, be optimistic for a brighter future. If you have something to fight for and live for, emotional resilience will naturally come to you.


As a rule of thumb, life will always try to knock you down. For that reason, you need to build your emotional resilience: Never lose your spark or give up. You must remain focused and always aim for the best. When you are emotionally resilient, you are able to lead a happy life and stay out of trouble. It is what you need for both emotional and mental health. Meditate, exercise, build a strong support system, and do everything you can to improve your mental strength.


About the Author:

Albin is a young and ambitious career specialist who has been helping people with personal and professional development for the past 3 years. His passion is to inspire others to live their dreams and be the persons they want to be.  He helps people make career choices that feel genuinely right for them.


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